Love him, but do not want to get married? Possible signs

Here are the possible clues indicating that you are not ready for marriage yet. Read to identify if you cannot decide to marry. 

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You took a good time to know each other, yet you carry doubts about taking the next step - marriage. On the other hand, you do not wish to end the relationship for valid reasons - emotional, mental, and physical investment. Well, we agree with you, and unquestionably, no one should marry their partner for the sake of society. You do not have to marry him just because your friends are getting married or under any families pressure. Nothing good comes out of pressure. One needs to be mentally prepared and when both partners mutually want to take the next step. However, if you are still wondering, after all, it is “normal” to get married and why YOU do not want to get married, here are five signs to identify the reasons.

Scared of losing identity  

A common reason to hold back aware women is fear of losing their identity. They dread the title and surname change, which is a societal norm. Moreover, it is not just about what name they will be addressed with but losing a lifestyle they have before they marry. However, girl, if this is the reason holding you back then, you need not fret. It is your decision about your individuality and lifestyle. You have had this identity ever since you first came into existence. If your partner has doubts, then have a healthy discussion with him to resolve this. 

On the other hand, men too have fears about marriage. Yes, they worry that their freedom will be at risk if they decide to take the plunge. After all, a night out or drinks over sports after a hectic day is on their to-do list. The fear of change holds back, which is normal and if you too are facing the same then, talk it out to your partner. Ultimately, it is you both who want to live a life together, married or not. 

Also Read: What men really want?

Short on funds 

This is a legit reason to give second thoughts about marriage. Financial instability or lack of savings, either for you or, your partner can be a constraint. Essentially, wedding expenses can become a strain on both of you. Also, if there are indications that one of you decides to stop working after marriage, then it gives you cold feet. If you are a lot worried about matters concerning money these days then probably you are not ready for marriage yet. 

Family or friends disagree

Before an essential decision like marriage, our family and friends are the ones cheering up. However, if they disagree with your decision indicating issues, then it gets complicated. Ultimately, you start weighing their reasons with your decision to marry. 

Negative energy

It is one thing to be warned by family or friends about marrying your partner but being guided by the angels is something else. Yes, our intuitive vibes are high while taking an important life decision. You have every right to be careful beforehand rather than regret it later on. If you are constantly occupied with worries concerning marriage then probably it is not the right time yet. 

Traumatic past

Not everyone is fortunate to have a blessed childhood. Traumatic past experiences from family and friends can level up the chances of not being willing to marry. If so, you can talk to your partner or a psychologist so that you can heal from it. Your recovery is essential before you decide to marry or start a family. Otherwise, it will haunt you forever and steal your peace and happiness.



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